I would think about this question in high school and college. We get to answer the question like we can choose the exact birth date and number of kids we like to have. That is how it worked for my Mom, so why not me?
But since being a Mom I have met many Moms. Most of them have a different number then they thought they would have. There are late marriages, miscarriages, infertility, and accidents. These are not things you think about when you first ponder the question.
But I do feel that each child is a gift from God. When the timing and the opportunity is right each. Maybe not the way each Mom wanted then they were first asked the question.
So sometimes it is not always what we want but what timing is right for us. I know I have learned great lessons on the way to getting what I want in life. But sometimes there is preparation because we can never guess what amazing things our waiting of us in our lives. Things we can’t even imagine.